Beautiful Like Me: Mono Ve, Mono Hace
In this edition of Beautiful Like Me, we are trying to answer the following question. What do today’s children and teens feel pressured to imitate? Why? You might be wondering how this relates to our project. My thought was that as a society we try to mimic what we see as beautiful. Our children do this as well.
A man that I know is a father of four. He has two teenagers and a set of 8 year old twins. He once said to me, “Raising teenagers is tough, but if I ever want to be the coolest guy in the world, I go and hang out with the twins.” This statement was said in a joking manner, but it really suck with me. Because if you think about it, he is absolutely right. When kids are young, their parents are the coolest people in the world. They can do “anything” they want. They see their parents as super humans who can do everything that they can’t. As I thought about this statement more and more, I realized something. Teenagers do the same thing with celebrities, athlete’s and the cool people in the news. They hero-worship these people like they use to hero-worship their parents.
I think part of the reason for this transition as that they start to see their parents as humans. But, it is also part of what my mom calls “The Terrible 13s”. Right around the age of 13, teens go through a second phase of declaring their independence. They reject their parents views and values as they struggle to find their own identity. They grasp onto new heroes to imitate. They feel pressure from their peers to choose the same new heroes as their friends. These people end up being bad boy and bad girl celebrities, other teens who have made the news for their bad behavior and many other people. Because there is mostly negative influence, teens and children succumb to it as they struggle to find themselves.
Don’t get me wrong, I do not blame celebrities and video games for bad behavior. But, in order to be honest, we have to admit that it is out there and it greatly out numbers the parents. So, how do we prevent this from getting into their heads as acceptable behavior? That is something that I don’t have the answer to. But, I will say this… I always think it is important to make sure that our children and teens think for themselves. If they can think for themselves and they use their minds, (that part is just as important) then maybe, it will prevent the worst of the mimicry. Whenever a celebrity does something stupid and it makes the news, the girls and talk about it. We talk about it at length and they tell me what they think. We don’t always agree about how stupid the action was. We don’t always understand each other, but we always talk about it. I hope that it keeps them from making the same mistakes as other teens are.
This topics participants:
- Judy at Coffee Jitters
- Cate at The Nature’s Child
- Lisa at Use Your Wisdom
- Lisa at Crazy Adventures in Parenting