Get a job!

Posted On January 21, 2010

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There are quite a  very few things in this world that will really get under my skin.  I realize that not all of these things are important.  I also know that some of the things (leaving dirty socks all over the house, for example) do not bother other people at all.  But what really gets to me?  What really makes me mad?

People that feel entitled to things that others have to work for makes me absolutely crazy.  I do not feel things should be handed to people.  I truly believe that in order to really appreciate something, you have to work for it.  Those people that don’t want to work but expect the same things as everyone else make me want to scream.  This is something that is frustrating for me across the board.  Whether it is a new skill that someone is trying to master, a difficult task that someone is trying to complete or a goal that is being reached for. 

What makes this whole deal even worse and the reason why I am stressed.  There really are people that have never had to work a day in their lives for anything.  To make matters worse, some of these people have enough financial resources to never have to put an effort into anything at all.  These people who do not even know the value of hard work get to have all the benefits.  I really don’t like these people.

Plastic bags or Silicone Doom

Posted On August 24, 2009

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Mexico City recently banned plastic bags.  Los Angeles is discussing a ban on them if the state of California does not set a ban.  Seattle has rejected a 20 cent fee for every paper or plastic bag handed out at stores.  Plastic bags have really come under fire lately.

Personally I try to use re-usable bags, but most of the time, I end up forgetting them at home or in my car.  If they banned plastic bags or if they started charging a fee for their use in my state, I would have to get use to either paying or remembering my bags.  Honestly, I think more often then not, I would end up paying a fee or figuring out how to cart my groceries into the house without bags.  I think it is because I am just so use to seeing them in stores that it is hard for me to make the change. 
If using the re-usable bags will make that much difference, I am all for it.  I just think that there are bigger concerns to the world as a whole other than bags.   Wars, nuclear weapons, terrorism…. just a to name a few.  If using these bags make a small change, great.  But, I have a feeling that it is just going to be a fad until environmentalist  find a new target.

What do you think?  Are plastic bags as evil as they are made out to be?  Do you think the change will stick?


By now, you have probably heard about Chris Brown and Rihanna.  I am truly disappointed by the sentencing that they are planning to give Brown.  Community service and probation just don’t seem like enough.  I know of several cases in California where people went to jail for lesser crimes.  I personally know someone who went to jail in California for a similar crime. 

To me, this judge is sending a message that is loud and clear…  If you have enough money you can do whatever you want and get away with a slap on the wrist.  But then again, we have seen that so many times, I really shouldn’t be surprised.  I am surprised and disappointed every time it happens though.  Maybe I put too much faith in people or in our justice system. 

Beating up someone smaller and weaker than you, regardless of gender, should always be a crime.  And it should be punished severely.   Cases like this one that are all over the news only reinforce the beliefs of bullies of the world.  We, as a society, should fight harder to protect the weak from the strong.  And prevent the strong from being evil by allowing them to get away with it.

Shaken, Not Stirred

I have been thinking a lot lately about the Tribe.  I have been thinking about how far we have all come and where we have been.  We are what people like to call a “blended family.”  And I am considered a “childless stepmom.”  I don’t like these terms at all.  (Be warned, I am feeling soap boxy today.)

First, the idea of a “blended family” to me implies that you just kind of throw everyone together and stir things until they are combined.  It does not mention any of the work involved or the love that we feel.  It just says that we are thrown together.  For us, (I hope, for us and not just me…) being The Tribe is about all of us working together.  It is about being a family and learning how we each work and look at the world.  Its about spending time together and growing together.  It is not only about my relationship with Bear.

Second, I don’t think someone can be a “childless stepmom.”  Stepmom means that there are children involved.  Whether or not they call you mom is irrelevant.  You are an adult in their lives and you should be a stepmom to them.  If you can’t be, then you shouldn’t have married a man with kids.  If others are making it hard for you, it is something that you have to deal with.  If their father doesn’t want you involved with them, you shouldn’t have married him because he wasn’t ready.

I know that there are a lot of people out there that see this differently.  But, I think it is important for my girls to know where I stand in all of this. After all, is our family that is involved.  And I feel like we are shaken, and not blended.  The Tribe has always and will always do things our own way.

Random Tuesday Thoughts: But He is on Oxygen!!

Random Tuesday Thoughts..  blah, blah, blah..  grab a badge and go see Keely or she will send her Ninja Office Manager after you.

I should really rename this to Random Ranty Thoughts, because that is what I seem to do on Tuesdays. So, please…  Welcome to Random Ranty Tuesday Thoughts!  I hope you enjoy, stay for the ice cream….

*My apartment complex has really gone down hill lately.  In one apartment in the same building with the management office, there is a little boy who is on oxygen. There is a big sign on their door stating “Oxygen in use, do not smoke or sure open flame!”  The man that lives there always walks into the apartment with a lit cigarette.  I want to scream at him, “HEY DUMMY!! YOU KID IS ON OXYGEN!!”  But, I really don’t think it would make a difference.  So, instead, whenever I see him do it, I point to the sign on his door and glare.

*GM filed for bankruptcy and people are upset with the President over this.  But as Bear put it. “Its like disciplining a willful child.  You tell them what they need to do and when then need to have it done by.  If they don’t do it, you follow through with the punishment.”  I really don’t know how they didn’t see this coming.  I think it is willful blindness.  That is something that can not be fixed.

*In the strange things my girls say category this week, we have cannibalism.

The Mother Hen: “WSM, The Show is trying to eat me because she is jealous of my house.”

The Show: “I am not jealous!!!!!”

Please note she didn’t say anything about not trying to prepare her sister for dinner.  I always thought that when Bear say, “Its like raising a bunch of cannibals” that he was kidding. Now, I am not so sure.

*Akismet was eating my comments.  I thought people didn’t care enough to leave me comments but really it was Akismet devouring them.  So, if you didn’t see your comment show up, please forgive me. I still like you.  Akismet on the other hand hates you.  I think I got the problem solved now, but I will be checking my spam filter a bit more often.

*The Tyrant has decided that she is willing to eat tacos.  She won’t eat noodles or potatoes but tacos make her happy.  I am very close to making her tacos for every meal, with sugar free Popsicles for dessert.  Anyone know a good nutritionist that will endorse this?…. Anyone?…  Well, I didn’t think so… Back to the drawing board.

*While you are here, take a moment to check out the Beautiful Like Me Project. We posted yesterday, but there is still time to get your post in! Or just grab a badge and spread the word!

Another reason I am scared for teenaged girls

Today, I read a story that just disturbed me. Two 16 year old girls were running their own brothel, by recruiting other teen girls. And the first thought that I had, was “Are you serious?”  This thought was quickly followed by, “Where were the parents?”  I am sure a lot of people think that when they read this story.  But my question is about when they were running the brothel, it was well before that.  Where were the parents when they got the idea that selling yourself for prostitution is okay.  Where were they when they rented an apartment on their own?  Where were they when these girls were gone at all hours of the night?

I know that prostitution is the oldest profession.  And I know, some people don’t have much choice.  There can be all kinds of reasons.  But, these girls are still in high school.  They should still have parents and teachers and councilors looking out for them.  Where were all of these people?  I know that for the most part as a society we are asleep at the wheel, but sometimes I wonder how much people just choose to ignore things that are obviously wrong.  The stories states that they were recruiting girls from their high schools.  If that is the case, then the students had to know what was going on.  If they knew and they did nothing, then I want to know where their parents are too.  Rumors and information in high school is not always reliable but I would like to think if an administrator caught wind of this, they would at least look into it.  I feel like so many people dropped the ball on this one.  Because it was allowed to happen for over 6 months.

I have said it before and I will say it again.  We need to be teaching our children, boys and girls to love themselves.  To have self respect and foster their self-esteem.  Too many times, I see parents tearing apart the self-esteem of their kids.  This does not help them, it only makes it so situations like this can happen.  I can not feel like any of the girls involved in this felt good about what they were doing from the start.  Someone should have told them that they are worth more than this.

Peanuts Are the DEVIL!

Posted On February 16, 2009

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Okay, here comes my soap box and rant.  All small children should leave the room immediately.  If you have a heart condition stop reading now!!  I have been reading the news again lately.  I know I keep promising myself to stop but its like a train wreck and I am addicted.  I can’t help but make CNN my home page.  It is shameless self-torture but it must be done.

Peanuts have gotten such a bad wrap lately.  The have been recalled due to salmonella and now they are being protested on Northwest Airlines.  Why are they being protested, you say?  Because people have allergies!  I understand that some people are so allergic to things that even if they are in the air it could kill you.  I mean, check out my allergy page.  But, come on!  You don’t see me denying the rest of the world pepperoni and hamburgers!  I don’t get fellow beef allergy suffers together and hold protests at McDonald’s every weekend.  Even though, they are bastard for making their fries so damn delicious while adding beef to them!

I have been know to go into analytic shock from someone walking by with the wrong perfume.  You don’t see me accosting said person with personal protection orders and lawsuits baning the use of their poisonous to me perfumes.  I don’t demand that it be a sulfate free zone wherever I go.  Even though that would make my life a bit easier.   So, why do these people feel that it is okay to protest peanuts?  And file laws suits?  And scream from the roof tops?  Maybe because they are a majority.  I mean, only about 0.01% of the population is allergic to sulfates.  So, we would have  a small group of people to protest against THE MAN.  But, really, I think it is silly to prevent others from eating things that they enjoy because you happen to be allergic.  Not everyone with a peanut allergy will spontaneously combust if peanuts are in the air.  But, everyone that gets a rash from eating peanuts feels it okay to scream “Are you trying to kill me?  Peanuts are the DEVIL!”


Posted On January 29, 2009

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I have found myself lately very disappointed with humanity as a whole.  Every day, we hear more and more about people and their collective indifference to everyone around them.  Is it a sign of the economy?  Is it a sign of the times?  Is it a sign that we really are doomed to repeat the mistakes of Rome?  Have we really turned into a “me-first” society?

Maybe it is because I am looking for it but I have found a lot of things in the news lately that just makes me sick.  Genosideis occurring around the world and we turn a blind eye to it.  Companies knowingly let tainted foodmake it to the consumer.  People care more about themselves and their own entertainment than someone that died. You see it everyday, people cutting in front of other in line at the grocery store.  People slamming each other on the Internet.  Signs announcing “Please end cell phone conversation before…” (Because people are that rude and they won’t end their calls even in the doctor’s office.) 

What happened to the sense of community that our parents and grandparents had?  Not so long ago, if a child was starving, and you invited them to share a family dinner you were thanked.  Most of the time you weren’t, because it was what was expected.  Now, if you do the same, you will be lucky if the police don’t show up at your door asking loads of questions about your motives for feeding a starving child.  Maybe this the reason we are a me-first society?  Is it because we are too scared of the consequences of doing the right thing?  To me, that doesn’t even make sense.

What we really need is a good old fashioned zombie apocalypse. 

Because, lets be honest.  Nothing brings humanity together like the walking dead…

One more reason the technology scares me…

Posted On January 14, 2009

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I was reading a few news websites the other day and stumbled upon this.  The article talks about 6 teens who are in Pennsylvania that have child pornography charges against them.  What did they do, you ask?  Well, apparently three girls (under the age of 18) sent nude pictures of themselves to three boys (under the age of 18).  There are many things about this article that I find highly disturbing.  First, it never states if the boy prompted the girls for the photos or if the girls just sent them the photos.  It also doesn’t say who reported it.  But this article had me thinking about all of those questions.  I wondered if someone could get into trouble just because someone else sent them a picture and they deleted it.  Or if the crime came into play because the picture wasn’t reported?  The other thing that really bothered me was when did taking nude pictures of your teenage self become so popular?  I remember being a teenager and feeling awkward for most of that time period.  I didn’t want my picture taken with my cloths on!  So, why did teens become so comfortable with themselves.  The last big issue I have with this is the charges.  To me, they seem a little harsh.  After all, in most states, convicted sex offenders must register on a list and notify their neighbors and anyone that they work with.  So, can you imagine these kids going door to door throughout there neighborhood announcing this?  And later in life, when they have a real job they have to report it to everyone that when they were 15 they sent a naked picture of themselves to someone else and are now permanently on the sex offender registry.  Hopefully, PA won’t make this piece of it a requirement.  But, it just seems over the top, if you ask me.

Take a minute and talk to your teenagers about this.  I know I will be talking to my girls.  I have always told (every time a new sex tape scandal hits the news..) the best way to avoid this kind of trouble is not to take the picture in the first place.

School daze

Posted On January 6, 2009

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If you have been watching the new lately, at all, you will probably have seen a story about the Obama girls and their first days of school.  They are attending private schools, the same one that Chelsea Clinton attended the media has been quick to point out.  If you see any of the pictures, you will see two miserable looking little girls surrounded by Secret Service agents.  The first day of school is hard enough.  These poor girls have to go in with armed guards and a media circus on top of all that.  I know that we are all interested in the “new Kennedy’s” but, can’t we just let these two go to school for a day or two before we hound them for interviews?

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